3 Online Dating Tips That Nobody Told You About
If you have the internet, then surely you are not new to dating online. Yes, online dating is fun, an exciting way to meet new friends and it can be really addictive. However, you must be warned of things you should look out for before you try it out. There have been more and more reported cases of identity theft or fraud on some sites. To avoid such problems and scams, here are 3 basic online dating tips that can help you.
Tip #1
Tell No One Anything.
Do not reveal any of your private information to anyone on any online dating site. Information like phone number, address should never be revealed to anyone, even if you have known them online for sometime or have been talking to them. You will never know who is really behind that persona you are talking to. The picture in the profile might not even be the real person! It pays to be cautious when dealing with anyone online. Some of these cyber criminals may even attempt try to trick you to reveal more personal information by pretending to be one of your friends. With such tricksters abound online, you must be paranoia about revealing any information to anyone online.
Tip #2
No site is safe. Period.
Having a website does not mean that whoever owns it is credible. Some owners of online dating websites will lure you in, request all your personal information and then sell those information to stalkers or other cyber criminals. Sometimes they sell these information to other companies which may seem legitimate but they in turn might resell your information to dubious characters. Also note that some websites that require you to enter a detailed password do not always mean a secure site. Always check that these websites have encryption enabled when you are submitting your information. Read all the fine print on privacy statement on these sites. Find out exactly what they can do and what they cannot do with your information. If possible, stick to mainstream or a famous online dating site. Sure, they are more expensive but the price is worth it to protect your identity from being stolen.
Tip #3
Use a nickname.
Never use your real name on the online dating site. Use a nickname or an alias instead. For example if your name is Jane Doe, use something else like lovewitch2007 instead. And if someone does ask you for your real name, you can give them a fake one.
All the 3 tips are meant to be basic guidelines that you should adhere to in order to protect yourself on any online dating site. You may be surprised at what people can find out online. It is better to be safe than sorry when you find out that “you” have been committing cyber crimes online and you have to go through the hassle of proving that it was not you.
Have fun meeting new people online but remember to protect yourself at the same time. Visit my website to read more about the various online dating sites.
Lesley Chew
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How do you deal with being unattractive?
I’m 6′3", around 235, and bald. I’m really unhappy with how I look and yet I know there is little I can do to change the basic things I hate. I can lost a bit of weight, but I’ll still be seen as big, and although a lot of people have a hard time understanding it, I absolutely HATE being seen as a big guy. I don’t care if girls like it because I don’t want a girl who wants some big guy to protect her. I don’t care if other guys think it’s great because I don’t think men have to look big and strong to feel good about themselves. I’m not saying I get a lot of attention from girls nor that I’m really all that strong or in good shape….I’m just going on comments I’ve received online and in person.
I know that my ideas of what’s attractive (if I could look any way I wanted, I’d have a full head of hair and be maybe 5′9" and slightly built) don’t coincide with most people’s, and I’ve always prided myself on having my own opinions even if they didn’t fit with who I was/am physically. However, it’s really, really hard to come to the conclusion that nothing can make me attractive.
I’m an atheist, so God or Jesus or praying is totally out. Nobody can convince me that looks "don’t matter", so don’t bother saying so….because I can’t fix my looks, I’ve decided to learn to be alone, something I have some practice with, since I have not dated in three years and, at age 31, have never had a girlfriend. I’ve dated a number of girls, but found them dull and intellectually fast-asleep, not to mention desperate and looking for a daddy figure (tip to females….don’t tell a guy you remind him of your father when you’re in bed with him), and so I feel like I’m not missing much considering the caliber of girl I can apparently attract. I just don’t know quite how to cope with such a revelation.
I don’t know exactly what kind of answers I’m expecting here, since I’ve asked people not to suggest prayer or to pretend that physical appearance doesn’t matter in a futile attempt to flatter myself. I’ve also attempted to tell people that telling me that they love a big bald man only makes me feel twice as bad about my looks. This is a challenge I have to face, but I’m still not quite sure how.
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READ MY QUESTION. I DON’T CARE IF OTHER PEOPLE THINK I’M ATTRACTIVE. I DON’T WANT TO DATE A GIRL WHO WANTS A BIG BALD GUY…I DON’T CARE THAT SOME GIRLS LIKE THAT SORT OF THING.
hey key’s, you need to seek therapy cause your aspects on reality is very out of touch and unreal, we all have our battles with in but at the same time we all have to realize that outer beauty is always subject to change, you need to get in check with your insides and maybe seek some professional help.
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youre fine trust me
im bigger than you and i have gotten many dates
you just have to find women that appreciate a bigger guy
and even though you dont like being one you cant change the fact that youre a big guy so you have to accept it
aha!
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I think someone has to realise that beauty is literally in the eye of the beholder.
wow… you really have seen the wrong type of girls. Im sorry. But have you ever thought of aiming high, dressing up in a nice shirt and pants and approaching a woman dressed in a business suit? chances are, shes not like those other girls. And as far a physical looks go – it is 15% about physical looks, and 85% about persona.
wow – i just looked at your photos… you really are just average. I think someone has some personal problems with themself!
Fine, be a loser and dont follow my advice. But i just gave you the golden key to get out of the shit pit.
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Your not that bad just dont wear like old man clothes…. And work out and work out and eat healthy things like me for example i get bored easily so i eat anything even if im not hungry… so after a while i got tired of that so i walked once everyday for a half and hour and ate fruits and yogerts and things that were healthy that i liked so after a couple months i started to loose weight and your a guy so u will loose more weight and a lot of it so dont worry and get depressed i did and it did not help at all. I hope i helped… feel better and the dude that did the 1st answer really rude i mean seriously
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i honestly dont know what to tell you because you seem like such a pessimist. youre looking at yourself like youre some big nasty person, when youre completely wrong. i think youre just comparing yourself to people who look exactly the same and are the usual of what people think are ‘hott’. there isnt only one way to look attractive you know. and i dont care that you told me not to say this, but looks really dont matter. the fact that youre so upset about your outer appearance is ridiculous. i dont think im very attractive, but i know i love who i am and my personality and thats why im confident in myself. if you keep worrying about something as stupid as this, youre never going to feel happy. youre going to have a sad life. the way you put ‘how to deal with being unattractive’ is just so pessimistic. the fact that you have to ‘deal with it’ like youre some nasty person and like its the worst problem in the world is just sad. and the funny part about it is, youre not even ugly! you do know that people, including myself, would never EVER in a million years date an attractive person who was a total douche? who cares? youre honestly looking at something like this in the worst way possible, instead of looking at all the good things about yourself. looks shouldnt matter to someone so much that it makes them dislike themself. eff that.
and also, since you obviously cant change how you look, stop wasting your time hating it. love it instead. youre gonna be you for the rest of your life. so stop being so negative.
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First of all I am sorry you don’t have someone to go to. Believing in God helps me so much. But I wont go into that since you didn’t ask about it
. Where you find the girls might play a part in it. If you only go to clubs and bars I wouldn’t expect to find the most enlightened girls. Girls that can have intellectual conversations and are enlightened on various subjects might not be at clubs ( not saying only idiots go clubbing but its not the smartest place to find a partner.) Also if you dont like the girls who want protective guys then find a girl who doesnt. They might not be attracted to you at first just because they feel that you are overbearing or want to protect to, but in time they will realize your not the type of guy to try to protect them. Also you have to deal with what you got. I don’t think I know anybody who doesn’t want some aspect of their physical features changed. I would love to be taller and have darker skin but l didn’t get it. So I have to just work with my good features. And I do think looking good is important. But I bet alot of girls find you attractive even if you dont find yourself attactive. I know thats how it is with me and guys…Welll anyways good luck and I hope you find what your looking for.
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Well even if you weren’t an atheist, praying to God to help "fix" you looks isn’t going to change how you look. I say that, being a Christian. As for changing your looks…ok, you don’t really like how you look but how long will you keep that up before you just accept it as something you can not change for the most, and move on.
At 6′3, you will never be "small". I’m 6′1, almost 6′2 and a girl…that’s not exactly the most appealing to every guy to have a girlfriend who’s that much taller than some of them. Am i whining about it? Not at all. Obviously it helps to enjoy being this tall. But i don’t ALWAYS enjoy it. Sometimes, i don’t want to be the only one standing out in a crowd only because i’m standing nearly a good 6 inches over most of their heads…but i’m not just going to shrink. So as for wanting to be 5′9, get over it, quit being all depressed about it. You aren’t going to shrink.
If you want to be skinnier, lose some weight. Although 200 lbs is about right for someone your height. I wouldn’t suggest getting under 200; even that may be borderline unhealthy.
As for being bald, there’s a number of treatments you can get if you really want a full head of hair. I’m sure it’s not the most appealing to be only 31 getting hair treatments, but if it’s bothering you that much, go get them and be done with it.
As for girls, i’m guessing you’ve just never come across any good ones that were attracted to you. Perhaps you should put more effort into looking. Be realistic too. If you think you’re lower than a 5 on a scale of 1 to 10, don’t go after a girl that’s higher than a 6. Your chances are slim. That may sound kind of mean but society bases alot on looks…and if you don’t have them, most of those who do aren’t that interested. Be thankful the majority of people are 8s at best.
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Is that a possum?
Well, I feel for you, really I do. I could tell you all the stuff that everyone’s told you…. I won’t even though I’m tempted.
Here’s food for though:
1)What is so bad about you?
2)What is is there good about you?
3)Ever thought about seeing a shrink… there could be underlying issues here. I don’t know.
How to cope with being unattractive. Feel better about yourself, you have friends and family… your pet possum likes you… it’s a possum right?
Being alone sucks no matter what so don’t alienate yourself.
That’s it! I hope you do feel better, no man/woman is an island.
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Unattractive female who’s coping in a world where it sucks to be unattractive.